Proviso Seniors Tackle Bullying Issues: Part 2 (Proviso, Ill.)
Excerpts from Proviso senior projects on bullying:
Bullying: Assertive vs. Aggressive
by Raven Daniel
When being assertive, you are more focused on finding a “win-win” solution. Individuals have assertive rights that they must always keep in mind. You have the right to judge yourself on your behavior, thoughts and emotions. You also have the right to make mistakes and be responsible.
In being assertive, your teen is demonstrating self- confidence, self-respect and the ability to stand up for himself effectively.
Parents can reduce the chance of their teens resorting to violence by teaching them to be assertive rather than aggressive. Parents should guide teens toward non- violent solutions to problems through skills. The most important step toward changing your teen’s aggressive behavior is to help them develop a sense of empathy.
Also help your school aged child that acknowledging someone’s difference in beliefs or values does not mean they should feel forced to accept them as their own.
A Serious Look at Bullying
by Nia Wiseman
Bullying has become a major problem in today’s world, especially with young kids and teenagers.
First we need to define bullying. It starts as abusive treatment, using force or coercion to affect others.
Bullying happens everywhere but there are locations where it happens more often than others. School is a great breeding ground for bullying activities.
This probably is because there are so many kids hanging out in one building. Bulling at school is a long standing problem.
Fortunately schools are now doing more to address the problem. Schools have anti- bullying programs and it is talked about in the classroom.
Often students with disabilities are more likely to be targeted than others. They may be dis- abled mentally or physically and appear to be easy targets for bullies. It is all about who appears to be strong and who appears to be weak.
Bullying comes in many different forms. First and most obvious is physical bullying. It’s pretty easy to see this because the victim is walking around with a black eye.
The next type of bullying is verbal. Making fun of clothes, hair, face and body are typical verbal bullying tactics.
Another type of bullying is known as indirect bullying. This is when someone spreads a rumor. It doesn’t matter if the rumor is true or not. The fact remains that hurtful things are being said about the victim.
The best way to overcome being the victim of a bully is to remember a very simple rule: Don’t suffer alone! If you’re a victim, talk to your parents. If for some reason it’s hard to talk to your parents, try going to a teacher you trust at school or another adult you think could help you.
The key thing to remember is to never suffer alone. Get help if and when you are bullied.
Consequences of Bullying: How Bullying Affects People All Around the World
by Edwin Cervantes
Bullying has become a major problem in today’s society. It is something that happens to children of all ages. It doesn’t matter if you live in a good neighborhood or a bad one. There always seem to be a few so called tough people who want to feel good about themselves by making others feel bad.
Victims may experience many immediate mental or physical health related consequences. Studies show that victims have more anxiety, sadness, sleep difficulties low self esteem, headaches, stomach pain and general tension than the ones who are not being bullied. They also suffer from anxiety disorders such as depression, separation, anxiety, panic disorder etc.
Psychological stress can cause victims’ bodies to be less resistant to disease and infection, and therefore they may get sick more often. It is very hard for bullies to make friends due to their high anxiety, and low self-worth.
Or often friends might just ignore the guy who use to bully. Being a victim can result in poor school attendance, because many victims become afraid of going to school They might also be scared of riding the school bus or going to the bathroom at school.
A study found that 8% of 8th graders miss at least one day a month for fear of bullies in the U.S. Victims receive lower grades due to attendance problems and also because of the stress and worry. Victims may become violent.
There can also be consequences for children who are bystanders or witnesses to bullying.
Witnesses suffer from frustration, fear, low self-esteem, and a loss of control. Witnesses also feel a huge sense of guilt about the bullying they witness especially if they don’t save the victim and the bullying continues. In these cases the witnesses may go from empathizing with the victim to later thinking that the bullying is acceptable. That’s the way of preventing themselves from feeling more guilt in the future. They will simply not even know that someone is being hurt.
Witnesses develop a lot of anxiety and stress. Witnesses worry that they will also become a victim and therefore their feelings of safety and security at school decrease. This would lead to negative feeling toward the school, which can also affect the learning and achievement. The main thing is that if people find out you’re a bully people wouldn’t talk to you.
People would avoid even getting near you. A bully will always be lonely. It can also lead to calling a police officer if it gets real bad. You may even bully the wrong person. They may come back to you and fight with you.
Victim and bystander both suffer from the effects of bullying. It causes negative physical, social, emotional and psychological consequences that can continue into adult- hood.
Bullying affects the overall climate in school in many ways. We all must work hard to prevent bullying.
Ombudsman provides an opportunity for all students, regardless of referral reason, including students who may have had significant aca demic, attendance or behavioral issues in the past. With Ombudsman’s approach to education and student motivation, students who have previously been unsuccessful, experience success and report confidence for the first time.
Our students may have been labeled ‘at risk’ but they are actually risk takers. At Ombudsman it is our job to help students take risks and change previous patterns of behavior and make positive choices.
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